Welcome back as we continue our road trip on the infertility super highway! If you missed yesterday’s post I would recommend reading Part I before reading Part II. Probably the worst part of any road trip is the traffic jams! After living in Hawaii I have a whole different understanding of traffic jams! The freeway actually becomes a parking lot twice a day Monday through Friday and more often than not on the weekends as well. There are traffic jams on the infertility super highway as well. They come in the form of failed cycles of IUIs and IVF. They come when the money you have budgeted runs out. It comes to a screeching halt when devastated by the loss of a pregnancy or neonatal death. However the traffic jam manifests in your life try and approach them in a positive way. I know this is so much easier said than done. When you find this hard to do turn to James 1:2, “Consider it pure joy, my brother, when faced with troubles of many kinds”. Believe me I know this is a hard pill to swallow. But I can attest that there is joy to be found in our traffic jams! And sometimes the greatest joy is the joy you experience in your greatest trial. If you are currently stuck in a traffic jam crank up the music, roll down the windows, look around you at the beauty all around you. The beauty you would probably have missed had you been flying down the freeway traffic free.
Like any road trip there comes a point when you have to take that exit and get off the freeway. You’ve found the exit and you go from 60-0 in a matter of seconds. Sometimes you get off where you want to but other times you are forced off for reasons outside of your control. Maybe you have been successful and your exit is called mommy-hood. Maybe your exit is called adoption and its leading you to a freeway change. Maybe your exit is called rest. Or maybe your exit is called child free. Whatever your exit is called recognize that the off ramp isn’t the end of the trip, it’s merely a transition from one route to another. You just have to keep driving!
Every road trip is different. We all take different roads, drive different cars, and have different experiences. One thing that is necessary for all road trips though is a road map or GPS. We can’t get to where we are going if we don’t know how to get there. God’s word and the Holy Spirit must be the road map on our infertility road trip. He is our strength when we are weak. His voice whispers words of affirmation and encouragement just when we think we can’t go any further. And He directs our path when we turn to Him. Proverbs 3:6 says, “Seek His will in all you do and He will show you which path to take”. We may make the plans but the Lord will direct our paths (Proverbs 16:9). Its so easy for us to get in the car and drive and just wing it. But that only leads to dead ends and unnecessary detours. Seek God’s will and plan for your journey. Trust that He will select only the very best route for you.